Finally. Let's see how long this lasts! I have no theme or mission for this blog. It will be part travel log (travelblog?), part diary, part survey, part fiction, part bitch-fest, part clinical chart. With a cream-filled center. Feel free to post your comments, but keep in mind that I am an extremely sensitive person who will probably cry about at least one of your comments.
Disclaimer: These are my thoughts. I am not wise. I am not a model anyone seeking success and happiness should follow. I will inevitably sound foolish here, simply because your opinions will differ from my own. I am not trying to convince you that I am right about anything, and I am usually willing to admit I am wrong about pretty much everything. This is just me thinking aloud. But not aloud.
Post 1
When does looking out for yourself turn into you being selfish? I have a hard time distinguishing between these two actions, which is probably why I think too much about what people think of me and how people perceive me and run to the other extreme: putting other people's needs and issues before my own. I like to think (maybe incorrectly) that I'm a giving person who puts 100% into a friendship/relationship, but that seems to leave me disappointed. Frequently. Am I being naive by thinking of other people first, or am I a better person for it? Sure, that makes me sound arrogant, but since no one else is reading this besides the 3 people I sent checks to, who cares? Am I somehow more enlightened for seeing that my own needs are second to those of the people I love? Or am I ignoring reality and trying to make myself sound more awesome than I am?
Question 2: Peanut butter and peach jelly sandwiches -- GOOD IDEA or BAD IDEA?
Disclaimer: These are my thoughts. I am not wise. I am not a model anyone seeking success and happiness should follow. I will inevitably sound foolish here, simply because your opinions will differ from my own. I am not trying to convince you that I am right about anything, and I am usually willing to admit I am wrong about pretty much everything. This is just me thinking aloud. But not aloud.
Post 1
When does looking out for yourself turn into you being selfish? I have a hard time distinguishing between these two actions, which is probably why I think too much about what people think of me and how people perceive me and run to the other extreme: putting other people's needs and issues before my own. I like to think (maybe incorrectly) that I'm a giving person who puts 100% into a friendship/relationship, but that seems to leave me disappointed. Frequently. Am I being naive by thinking of other people first, or am I a better person for it? Sure, that makes me sound arrogant, but since no one else is reading this besides the 3 people I sent checks to, who cares? Am I somehow more enlightened for seeing that my own needs are second to those of the people I love? Or am I ignoring reality and trying to make myself sound more awesome than I am?
Question 2: Peanut butter and peach jelly sandwiches -- GOOD IDEA or BAD IDEA?
First comment....yay me likey woot woot ... Jerome Was HERE!!!
ReplyDeleteI put my post up on your blog . When you blog, I blog, we blog. Just sayin'. I think moving to the big city alone is a step towards taking care of yourself, which in some respects should be paramount, as you can't properly give your best to others if you don't have your best to give.
ReplyDeleteI'm hip to trying the PB&PJ combo. -- I tried the California Whopper the other day-- yummy to my tummy.
I agree with Steph on taking care of yourself. And i dont feel that being selfish is bad, really only becomes negative when you step on others along the way.
ReplyDeleteBut anyways, miss you Radhi and keep up the blog!
I'm happy you are blogging because I love to read what you write! You have such a thoughtful and interesting way with words that always impresses me. And here it is, 4 in the morning and I can't sleep, and what do I find in my inbox but something to make me smile and think (the pbj ? is a head scratcher).
ReplyDeleteI'm trying to think of something insightful to comment about your post but now that Freak Nasty song just keeps playing in my head (thanks steph)...i fail. Time for a glass of milk (and maybe a pbj) to try to induce sleep.
One last thing, my check didn't clear.
We talked about what you have in your 1st post. Not all friends are created equal...you will find some amazing friends up there. Stay positive :)
ReplyDeleteYou are a giving person and a good friend. It's not selfish to think of yourself first. If you don't look out for yourself, no one else will and then you will feel used by people. I think a person needs to have a good mix of looking out for others and out for themselves. Hope things are going well up north. Keep smiling. :)
ReplyDeleteIn the society of instant gratification, it's sometimes misleading to assume that all relationships are needed equally on both ends of the "friend spectrum". Every relationship has that one person who cares more, that one person who does more, that one person who remembers more. We all know that person; in your case, you ARE that person. Is that necessarily a bad thing? Well, only if you're getting hurt in the process. I wouldn't say you're making the world a better place because your concerns lie more with others than with yourself, but you are the backbone of the "I need it now" generation.
ReplyDeleteThe problem with humans, though, is that they're always gonna let you down, no matter what you may expect of them. Therefore, the real test of friendship is whether or not you're able to go back to someone AFTER they've let you down.
--Best of luck to you in your journey,
An Anonymous Admirer
I ADMIRE you for what you did, moving to the big city. I love it and I think it fits you. On another note, you are the least selfish person I know. You are constantly looking out for others and it makes me want to be a better person for it. Love the blog, so keep on posting.
ReplyDeleteP.S. It makes me nervous to write to a Language Arts enthusiast. Just don't judge my bad grammar!
- Kristen
i just read this and most of your other posts (in the times of chimps was just too long). please send me a check.... i am listing myself as anonymous since i am a legitimate stalker.
ReplyDeletethank you for all of the sweet comments! and anonymous -- send me a telegram once you've read EVERY SINGLE POST. any stalker worth his salt wouldn't rest until he had read every post twice, as a matter of fact. although MY stalker WOULD decide that he's too lazy to stalk me to the fullest degree.
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